Thursday, November 15, 2007
Opening adoption records for adults
Guys here’s an interesting blog I found on the “Gainesville Sun” website about opening birth records of adopted adults. I strongly support the idea of opening adoption records for adults because many times adults wanted to know their biological parents. I met a friend who was adopted and never met his parents; he’s really confused because he doesn’t know who he got his physical features from. I know it would be very difficult if their parents don’t want to be found. Most parents might be embarrassed, guilty or afraid knowing that they had to give up their child (ren) for adoption. At the same time children or adults would love to know their biological parents. Do you know anyone who was adopted? How would they feel about this?
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I too agree that opening adoption records to adults is a great idea but at the same time, it can bring on a lot of negative feelings if the adult is not opening and understanding to why a parent had to place him or her up for adoption. Yes, I do know someone who was adopted. A matter of fact, it is my sister that my mom had before she met my father. Personally, I do not know how she would feel about contacting her biological father. She never talks about him. I do remember my sister seeing her real dad for the first and last time in the mall with my mom and me. He said that he would call but never did. I really think it is a touchy situation but each situation is different. My father adopted my sister and he treats her the same as he does any of his girls. She refers to him as her father. Reading this blog makes me wonder if she thinks about her biological father at times. I do agree that parents feel embarrassed, guilty or afraid but these are all normal feelings. But I only feel that a parent should feel this way if and only if they had the best interest of the child at heart.
my cousin was adopted openly, but he is only four so this hasn't become an issue yet. perhaps it will in the coming years, and if it does, i feel that jimmy has been brought up in a healthy situation that it would not be overly dramatic or stressful for him. who knows, maybe it would be a disaster. the article deals with adopted adults, though, who have settled into their careers and possibly have families of their own. i feel like this brings an entirely new dynamic into the picture, which could ease things more. overall, i have a positive reaction to this, but then again, it needs to be decided on a case by case basis.
I know this topic is a little touchy because most of us have friends and family members who are adopted and would love to meet the biological parents but as for your sister MCCRE I don't know what to say... may be she's hurt and not wanting to disscus her feeling with anyone. My feelings changed about my father as I got older even though I was not adopted. She also might change her mind some day.
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